A house fire is a very traumatic event, one that you may have to work hard to recover from. The first key to moving past a house fire and getting on with your life is called “noticing.”
What is noticing?
Self-observation and self-awareness are other terms for noticing. Noticing is becoming present in the moment, becoming aware of everything around you as well as what you are experiencing.
Through noticing you are then able to become aware of what is stopping you from moving forward and what is stopping you from taking the actions you know deep down you need to but keep putting off.
It also enables you to become present to opportunities that are right in front of you, that while you are not present are invisible or silent to you.
The many benefits of noticing include:
- Reclaiming your power, stop feeling powerless and helpless. It opens up a way from feeling trapped and alone to feeling free and connected.
- Going from where you see no way out and nothing else that can be done to seeing other options not yet tried.
- From hearing doom and gloom and impossibility to hearing joy and possibility.
- Reduced stress levels.
- Being more flexible and confident in your approach.
- Being able to support family members more easily.
- Being more attuned to what is happening with oneself and your loved ones.
- Identifying what causes you to procrastinate and be able to turn that procrastination into “do it now” action.
- Lifting out of depression.
- Going from saying “why me?” and feeling angry, indignant and resentful to saying “thank you” and feeling grateful.
- Moving from victim to creator.
It also enables you to recognize change and acknowledge the small successes, which when ignored can make you feel like nothing is working.
You may feel like a failure and can then be drawn this way and that by other people’s suggestions, making you feel even more of a failure.
You become unable to value your own unique gifts and abilities and ways of working.
Recognizing any change in terms of movement – either an increase or decrease, or a change of direction, as well as the size of any changes rather than looking at them as being for the better or worse, good or bad is important.
It is a more empowering place to come from. It helps you to not sink further into that depressive state but connect with hope and optimism, allowing you to feel more buoyant.
Here are 3 steps to take to begin utilizing the power of “noticing” in your life
Step 1 Look –
In your mind’s eye what movie do you keep playing? Or what pictures do you have that are constantly there, in an unconscious way, which stop you moving forward?
What do you find yourself drawn to? What kind of things do you keep looking at?
Scan your body and become aware of any pain, tension or stiffness that is there. Become an observer of your actions.
What do you see yourself doing over and over again? What actions do you see yourself willing to do and which do you do unwillingly?
Look where you are at, at the present. Look at what is around you, who surrounds you and how does it make you feel?
Step 2 Listen –
Listen carefully to your inner voice and to what you are saying to yourself. What are the words and language you are using that has you feeling powerless to move?
Listen to your outer voice and become present to what you tell others. Very often we have no awareness of what we are saying and how limiting our words are.
Become aware of your language, what words or phrases do you use that hold you in a space of no change, or not being able to change and consequently not able to move forward.
For example, how often do you use “I can’t”, “that’s impossible”, “I’ve never done it that way”, “we have always done it this way”, or simply “I don’t know”?
Listen to what you hear others say over and over, or that triggers you in some way.
Step 3 Learn –
The next step is to ask yourself, “What can I learn from this?” “What Impact is this having on me?”
Being willing to learn, unlearn, and then relearn is what will then enable you to begin to move forward with your life.
What you have been doing? Who have been being? Let go of that and create a new way of being, and become aware of the actions you can now take.
Patterns of behavior start to emerge and make themselves known to you. By becoming aware of what these actions are that you keep repeating, you can then see why you keep getting the same results, rather than the results you want. From this understanding you can then make a conscious decision to alter your actions.
At that point you can then begin working toward overcoming the traumatic house fire and once again living happy and carefree.
Need to sell your fire-damaged house?
Selling a fire-damaged house can help speed up the recovering process and help you move on.
For one thing, you won’t be stuck in a house under repair where you are reminded daily of what happened. You also won’t have to go through the additional stress that comes with repairs – including the noise and the project delays and cost overruns.
The good news is you can sell you fire-damaged house to We Buy Fire Damaged Houses and you won’t have to make any repairs. You can sell the house “as-is.”
That can save you a lot of time and stress. You can also take the money you get from the sale and combine it with your insurance settlement to have even more money to buy a nice replacement house.
You could end up with a nicer house in a nicer neighborhood. But the first step is selling your house to We Buy Fire Damaged Houses.
To get the process started, complete the short form below to see if your fire-damaged qualifies for a free, no-obligation quote.
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